Why Unmarried Black Women Can't Find A Good Black Man

Oh Lawd........here we go again. Another sob story about how black women can't find a good black man. I'm sure some in White Amerca love these women for they have proven their theories about black men. Of course this gives the media another chance to do a story about how many Black men are in jail,without a high school diploma,unemployed,blah,blah,blah....as if we don't have enough of that going around already. If I wanted to hear that,I could tune into the radio and hear talk show hosts talking about it on a daily basis. If I wanted to see that,I could go check out a Tyler Perry movie-ANY Tyler Perry movie (Daddy's Little Girl the exception) and see how we cheat on our women,treat them like dirt and leave them for white women once we get some money. Don't get me wrong,Tyler Perry does a lot of good in the community but ENOUGH ALREADY bruh.But out of all the things ABC could have done a story on,THIS is what they came up with? THESE are the women they chose for this story? Ok,fine don't blame me for what you're about to read,blame ABC for airing this mess.Honestly I'm glad they chose these women because I know their type all too well.
See,let me explain something to you.I don't have a degree in medicine. I don't have a Law degree. I don't have a degree in Sociology,Psychology, Biology or any other kind of "ology". I have a degree in Womanology.Let me say it again,I HAVE A DEGREE IN WOMANOLOGY. Say it with me boys and girls......woman(WOMAN)-ology(OLOGY). Now put those words together and say WOMANOLOGY(WOMANOLOGY)....very good boys and girls,that's right, I STUDIED WOMEN IN COLLEGE. And not only do I have my B.A in Womanology,but I also earned my Masters and PHd in WOMANOLOGY!! So,seeing as though I am well studied and professionally trained in women.I'm about to break down the type of women in this video as only a well studied,properly educated Womanologist can...ok? OK!

Now let's take a look at the very attractive,well accomplished woman who is a Prosecuting Attorney,I think her name was Nicole. Nicole goes to work everyday and she sees one Black man after another going into the criminal system. I can understand how she could be discouraged. I would too if that's all I saw everyday. But at the same time,this "Man's Woman" as she was called in the piece,dances for the Atlanta Falcons on the weekend. I see absolutely nothing wrong with that. I've seen where men have taken her apart for dancing half naked in front of 60,000 fans on the weekend. Hey,if that's what she loves to do,I would support her. But she wants people to believe that NO ONE she's attracted to has tried to get at her? Not one of the Falcons or opposing team's players has ever approached her? How about the brothers who attend the games every week? None of them have made any efforts to get at her? I'm not buying it. I'm willing to bet she HAS dated athletes and came across as a gold digger.Maybe I'm wrong but as aggresive as athletes are IN ATLANTA and the pedigree she has NO ONE has came close to satisfying this woman? It is my observation,that she won't date the brother who is making 75k/year because she has had the taste of riding in the Phantom with the pro athlete and refused to ride in the Chrysler 300. Nope,not going to settle for that!!

Next we have Chato,age 32. She has all of these terms she throws around like BGs(black girls) and BPG (back pocket girl). Then she makes mention of white women getting married at age 25. This attractive,successful woman hasn't been in a serious relationship in 10 years. She had a list of 50 things-FIFTY THINGS a man must have that she keeps in her Bible. She said she reluctantly cut it down to 10. WOMAN ARE YOU SERIOUS? Let me explain something to all of you Chatoes reading this blog. If you're single and HALF WAY attractive, but you haven't been in a serious relationship in 10 years. BABY,it ain't the men you're dating,IT'S YOU!!!! I already see her problem.She keeps a "list" in her Bible but I bet you she couldn't quote Proverbs 31:30 off the top of her head like she quoted that statistic about White women getting married at age 25. I'm willing to bet she spends most of her time complaining about what men DON'T have that she never take the time to see what they DO have.She is the type that will end up getting married to the first guy she think is half-way ready to get married because after all "her clock is ticking".Then 6 months after the honeymoon,when she realizes she doesn't want to be married anymore.She will say her husband wasn't man enough for her,or he wasn't handling his responsiblities as a husband. She will use all kinds of excuses to her friends instead of admitting she was in love with the idea of having a wedding and a husband but never considered the idea of marriage. But she will never come to her senses because after all,"she's waited this long,she CAN'T settle NOW."

Then there's the sister who has a height requirement. Oh ,my bad,she's lowered it from 6'5 to 6'2.......oh gee thanks for doing us short guys a favor. We REALLY appreciate it!! You know this is interesting, because I've had women tell me,if I was 6'2 instead of 5'8 they would date me. Well, me being ME,I responded by saying look,don't hold the fact that I'm not 6'2 against ME and I won't hold the fact that you may not look like Natalie Benson against YOU.

This is Natalie Benson

-Needless to say,that was the end of THAT conversation. I mean really,WOMAN get a grip. You looking at a man's height before you even allow yourself to talk to him? Good luck with that because most men you're looking for in that 6'2 -6'5 range that you may meet are probably athletes. Because I'm sure you wouldn't date a 6'2 brother who works for UPS. No, why do that,although THAT is the brother that will treat you like a queen.Keep hope alive sister,one day you'll meet the man of your dreams. You may be 55 when you meet him,but hey,that's only 20 years from now(SMH).

Finally,we have the baby of the crew Melissa,who is 28. This poor woman is done......you hear me........DONE I said. She is hanging with these beautiful,attractive older SHALLOW women who are always complaining about how they can't find a man. She hasn't been in a committed relationship since college. Look here girl,all I will say to you is,get you some new friends. Because no matter who you meet and date. You're going to have to get their approval first,and there is no man on earth THESE scandalous chicks will approve of. What you need to understand is,it's not about the man you date. It's about YOU being younger than they are and meeting someone before they do. That's the problem with being a single black woman and having friends. THEY will need to meet him and REAL TALK,any man that meets THESE chicks and spend 10 minutes listening to them talk the way they talked on this video,will RUN from you.Then guess what your girls will be pumping your head with........"he's intimidated by a strong,independent Black woman" Don't believe that "mess". If you do you will be 45 years old still talking about the shortage of Black men.

There are some things that are pathetic then there's THIS. On facebook,many women were posting this mess and getting amens from every woman that commented on it. The men would comment here and there but for the most part they would just let it slide,but not your boy. No longer will I allow Black men to be the scapegoat for some black women being miserable in their singleness. The easiest thing in the world is to deflect blame onto someone else. I understand that we are out numbered but my goodness,some of you act like finding a good man is harder than pulling teeth. If WHITE women can find a good Black man and in some cases some Black MEN can find what they say is a good Black man then SURELY you can. But the question then becomes,would you recognize him when you see him?

Some of you will pass up on a good man because you met the guy driving the S500. Not knowing that he's robbing Peter to pay Paul. Unfortunately,that's what so many men do.We KNOW that's what draws you in. Then when you find out he was a fraud you blame HIM instead of yourself. You KNEW he was pushing the S500 but still renting an apartment. But you paid it no mind because he "appeared" to have it going on. Some of you won't date a man with kids because you've convinced yourself,you will have "baby mama drama". So you date the man with no kids only to find out later he DOES have kids.But since you've invested time in the relationship,you stick it out. Then one lie,leads to two which leads to three, then you have the audacity to blame it all on HIM. Even though all the warning signs were there. You dated him for months and he never took you around his family.Now not only do you find out he has kids but also has an ex wife. Sometimes I swear women choose their men like they buy their shoes.You KNOW,they don't fit your feet. You KNOW they will leave your feet jacked up. But since they LOOK good to you and everybody else,you buy them anyway. So you walk around with these shoes on that LOOK good but they are KILLING your feet. Those shoes end up affecting the way you buy the next shoe and the shoe after that. It's the same way when you choose a man.

No one reading this blog or viewed this video can convince me any of these women haven't had the opportunity to date good quality men. But I'm willing to bet,they were judging him by the wrong standards. They're looking at where he is RIGHT NOW before they talk to him. But that RIGHT NOW situation can change tomorrow. What they should do is find out where he's been and where he's going. I'm sure many of you have passed on a guy that you thought would never be anything in life. You saw what he did for a living,you saw where he lived and just decided this guy didn't meet your standards. Then later on you get sick to your stomach when you find out the type of home he's building,or that business that sounded too far fetched is taking off or the book you said he couldn't write has people lining up to publish it.

WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT IN A MAN?

Some of you have said you want a really nice guy who makes you laugh,yet when you meet him he's too nice or doesn't make you laugh enough. Some of you say you want a man that attends church and has a relationship with God. Then you will come to church,sit next to that man you SAY you want and pray that God changes the heart of a man you left at YOUR house,laying in YOUR bed,playing YOUR son's playstation.
HELLO SOMEBODY!!!

Ladies what you have to understand is this. Many Black men are starting to look at other women of other races,NOT because we're intimidated by your success. Many men are just plain ol sick and tired of dealing with the emotional baggage that comes with trying to convince Black women that we ARE good men. You can smack your lips,roll your neck and cut your eyes if you want to,but it is what it is. White and Latino women are getting bold and approaching Black men on a regular basis. They know YOU have a one track mind as to what qualifies someone as a good man. So they swoop in and grow with what you said you won't settle for. They laugh at you when you say white women are stealing your men or black men are selling you out for white women. It's a joke to them and to many brothers. As someone who in the past has been AGGRESSIVELY pursued by a white woman, a very attractive,professional white woman. I must say I'm more open to it now,than I was in the past. Now,I'm confident in who I am and I know where I'm going. So if the opportunity presents itself again and I'm available,I'm going for it.

Black women you better wake up.